The chapter 4 about being a “contribution” was so freeing. This book has somehow changed my attitude about several negative ideas and feelings that I have been experiencing for the past few months. I almost have permission not to feel those things anymore. Here are some changes in thought that I have shifted--like a paradigm shift just recently:
THEN: not doing enough as a mother for my children
NOW: I have contributed by preparing meals in advance for my kids, I have arranged for activities for them, I am starting a new job so that I will be in a better frame of mind for them (all in the past week).
THEN: I am not being a happy, productive worker (teacher)
NOW: I can make a better impression within a smaller (new) workplace and exercise new skills and gifts
THEN: I have had little time for friends and don’t have time to do much of anything because I am so busy
NOW: Even with a new job, time in the evenings and weekends will soon be mine to devote to others again, especially as I finish this degree.
I already feel freer about transforming my train of thought in this process. This book could not have come at a better time in this program. This program has brought so much value to my life and my career that I just want to pass it on. That is the subject of chapter 5--”Being a leader from any chair”--the subject of my next blog post.
"Why is your dog in the picture?" Because I am contributing to his happiness by taking him to Starbucks with me and giving him whipped cream more often!
Sheryl,
ReplyDeleteI agree with you chapter for has been liberating, I was so goal and accomplishment oriented in my life. Even with the AR, I realize that it need to contribute to education in some way. That takes off tons of pressure from my shoulders. We always think that we have to conquer the world or at least a chunk of it. I still believe in setting goals, but just taking things easy. I want to contribute to the lives of others.
I have always heard that happiness is a state of mind and your post drives that idea even further to home. I try to live my life by the simple idea of “what makes you happy is what you need to do.” I like to think I am doing ok with that idea since I love my job, I am getting married in October, and, happily, I will be finishing my degree soon (more time for goofing off without homework!) I am soo happy to see that you are having a good experience recently. GO Sheryl!
ReplyDeleteDogs are such great examples of how to enjoy the moment. :-)
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