I am the framework for everything that happens in my life was a nice reminder that I needed this week.
So, it was a hard work at work. I have been beating myself up ever since I left Friday afternoon. “Why did I get this job? What did they see in me? I have no idea what I should be doing. I don’t think I did a good job on my presentations today.” Yep, downward spiral talk.
This was in stark contrast to the presentation I did for my AR project on Tuesday night. I was knowledgeable about my subject and am a decent/conversational presenter. But I had to present four times on Friday afternoon and honestly, I felt like I was talking in jibberish. It was terrible--at least in my eyes.
But I am in control here. How can I gain back control of this situation. Luckily, we have a team meeting Monday morning where I can explain that I feel overwhelmed. Ask for feedback about where everyone thinks I went off track. Then I have a one-on-one with my boss that afternoon. I know she will listen and offer suggestions on to do better next time.
How does this relate to being the board? I can bring in the thoughts of “how fascinating” of how overwhelmed and inexperienced I am. I can include that many opportunities are being offered to me to learn about how I can be more effective in this position. Hopefully, this frame of reference will help to make for a better week.
Sheryl,
ReplyDeleteWe often find ourselves, questioning ourselves and feeling like we can do better. We are our worst critics, and at times we start to criticize others in the same manner. Failing to realize we all need work. I felt after presenting on Tuesday, I could've done a whole lot better. Everyone one after me sounded so professional and their AR projects seemed a heck of a lot more interesting than mine. However, I'm me and I can only work on and improve me. I can contribute to others, but the greatest impact that can be made is on myself. I can change my state of mind, attitude, actions and reactions. Most of all I can learn from the mistakes. Of course there are time other's are at fault, but do I have to always point them out. Nope, not really. Because, I'm me and I need to work on me. In turn others will work on themselves, and why... Because actions are the silent examples, people focus on what we say, but more on what we do. In that we liberate others to work on improving themselves, without saying anything, or reinforcing the positive.
Sheryl,
ReplyDeleteThe first line of your blog “I am the framework for everything that happens in my life”, says a lot about you. You are right we are the frameworks for everything that happens in our life but there are many other factors that contribute to the framework. Your perception of your performance at work depicts a person who is honest, practical and welcomes constructive criticism so that she may grow. I enjoyed reading your post and seeing that being the framework of everything that happens in our life is not about doing it alone. Thanks for sharing, Susan.